Holidays are hard sometimes, the old saying about being able pick your friends but not your family comes to mind.
Sometimes our energy is thrown off by people we have to spend time with on a holiday. So much so that it makes it difficult to be thankful for much of anything at the time.
It’s so challenging when other people’s negativity penetrates us so deeply that we in turn become negative.
But it is possible to stay in control of your own energy, to not go into reaction mode.
We don’t want to be so influenced by the energy of others that we are essentially giving ourselves away.
If you are like me and highly sensitive, and if you’re here reading this you likely are, this sort of situation is especially difficult. It’s so easy for us to absorb the energy around us. If we want to offer our best to the world and those we love, we need to love ourselves enough to own our energy
Because, if we don’t, others will.
Strong boundaries are needed for certain energies that we come into contact with, so we need to learn how to not be swept away into the current of others. It’s a balance though because we also want to be compassionate as well. All of us are struggling at times, especially those we see as being “negative” or “challenging”.
A little more compassion, and a little less judgment, goes a long way for all of us.
When we practice not reacting and being in control of our energy we don’t need to judge people.
Here are some ways we can compassionately interact with the world from a grounded and calm place;
Stay True To You
If you’re with someone who loves to complain, who speaks negatively about others constantly, don’t join in just to be agreeable. Know who you are and how you want to be in the world. Stay true to yourself.
If you don’t join in they may realize that there is another way to connect.
To own our energy, we need to trust and validate ourselves. We don’t need to go along and conform to be liked. We don’t need to respond in kind when we feel we’re being criticized. We can rise and respond as the person we want to be.
Practice the Pause
When we react quickly to other people energy, we’re less stable in our own. Practice pausing before reacting. Check in with yourself to see how you can best respond. Allow your best self to step forward, not your ego. By pausing and responding mindfully you’re less likely to allow someone’s negativity to affect you and drag you down.
If we are in a challenging situation, we tend to take shallow breaths. This only increases our distress. So, remember to breathe deeply. Take a few slow cleansing breaths to remind you of your own power, the dominion you hold within yourself.
Recognize your power, and own it!
The more sensitive, empathic and tender you are, the easier it is for you to become enmeshed by the energies of others. But you can protect your energy. It takes intention and some practice… and the knowing that you’re worth it. Choose to believe you are, lovely, because it’s true.