The Right Thing
When I do the right thing I feel good! It sounds old school, but this is really the foundation of growth and spiritual practice. How do you know what the right thing is in a situation? You take some quiet time, can be just a few minutes if that is all you have, breathe softly and slowly and ask your intuition, ask within.
When we practice loving kindness for everyone, including difficult people…..and ourselves we feel better. Loving kindness toward ourselves neutralizes any sense of shame we might have.
Improvement Without Perfection
It’s ok to be perfectly imperfect. We really don’t need to be perfect. We can let go of trying so hard, take things less personally. We might be anxious, needy or sad sometimes and that’s ok. We can accept ourselves and our humanity and still work toward improvement, without perfection.
Sharing and Shining
We can acknowledge our talents, it’s not vain. We’re here to shine who we are. Reflecting on our abilities before bed each night is a great “feel good” practice. Filling up our hearts ourselves means we pull less on others energy for validation.
Our Fan Club
We feel better when we spend more time with people who like us and less time with those who are indifferent or negative toward us. It’s much more satisfying than trying so hard to convince others who are less than enthusiastic about us how wonderful we are.
I keep a nurturing image filed away in my mind for those moments I need encouragement or a “poor baby”. Poor babies is a term one of my teachers in nursing school used when we thought things were becoming too hard. She would pat us on the back and say “poor baby”. Unfortunately she did it sarcastically but when we need a true “poor baby” pat, it’s good to have a compassionate image to call up for soothing. Those that know me well can easily guess mine.
Let’s forgive ourselves for our faults and shortcomings. We can choose to improve but we don’t need to berate ourselves constantly for missing the mark. Continuing self-flagellation can become an avoidance of responsibility. When we take true responsibility, we face ourselves honestly, forgive ourselves and then move ahead. We can even write ourselves a forgiveness letter, or imagine being forgiven by an honored figure who holds meaning for us.
Stand Up To You For You
We need to stand up to judgmental, critical thoughts we have about ourselves. Some examples are; unfair comparisons with others, or basing our worth on what we do (facebook anyone?).
Treating ourselves as if we matter is important, because we do! We need to pay attention to our dreams, our hopes and encourage them realistically.You need to treat yourself as if you matter. We may not have experienced empathy as children, but we can offer it to ourselves now.
So take a breath and let go, when you need to. Let’s love yourself up all the time. When we feel good about ourselves we bring that goodness to everyone around us.