Self-care has become quite a buzz word the past few years. The trouble I find with that happening it that is overly saturates a concept till it is overdone and then overlooked. It simplifies it to the point that a lot of the concept's value is lost. And so it is with Self-care, so I prefer to call it Soul-care, the name really weeds out quite a few that stay far afield with anything sounding remotely religious or spiritual. In the way I use it it's meant to be strictly spiritual and not religious. And there is a big difference. I should probably write about that, but here I go veering off in another directions. Imagine what having a conversation with me must be like. My daughter can attest to it be challenging to keep track at times.
Anyway back to Soul-care. one of the reasons I like this name better is because it doesn't instantly conjure up images of bubble baths and pedicures. Not that there's anything wrong with either one. Personally I prefer showers, and pedicures consist of me changing the polish on my toes when it's worn thin and long overdo, but again I digress.
Soul-care to my way of thinking consists partly or largely of taking time for stillness and reflection. Letting our inner self speak to reveal our deeper desires our thoughts and needs. It feels so good to acknowledge and perhaps re-evaluate them.
It's good to ask ourselves questions
Questions like, what story am I telling myself and others, over and over?
What do I really want?
Am I aware of my thought patterns? Are they mostly positive? If not am I working on shifting them to be more positive?
The first thing to do to change a thought is to;
Pause, breathe, and then ask another question. What I like to call, an Awake and Aware question.
How is this serving me, why won't I let go of this thought, belief, pattern?
Ask without pressuring yourself to change, simply ask.
How is this thought, this pattern, this story serving me? Even negative thought patterns serve a purpose for us in some way. Sometimes they help us by letting us stay in a comfortable place without having to challenge ourselves to change and do the work.
And they're always based on past experiences that we developed those thoughts around, so we stay stuck in the past. Whether it was good or bad, staying in the past keeps us from living now and for some, that is actually preferable for lots of reasons. I know this because I was a master at this for a long long time. My reasons may not be the same as yours, there hundreds of different ones, but they all work the same way. They sabotage us, keep us from moving forward in our lives.
Asking opens us into our Now Moment, our Point of Possibility !
Let’s remind ourselves to ask the questions that bring us out of the past into the present process of becoming.